Inspired by body favorable activist Virgie Tovar and this recent article on Mic, "5 Body Shaming Opinions That Everyone Should Stop Saying This Summer" I determined to write my own list of body shaming comments that naturists are tired of hearing. This list is about how folks shame the naked body, particularly the female body.
1. Why are individuals at the nude beach never the people you need to see naked?
I brought up this opinion in our 10 common myths about naturism, but here it is again, as it's everything to do with body shaming.
Naturism isn't about looking pretty for anyone. Nobody (unless they're exhibitionists) goes to the bare beach to be your eye candy. If you visit a bare beach or nudist resort simply to look at bodies you find appealing, then your creepy behaviour is called voyeurism.
For quite a long time, marketers have already been using the notion of the sand body or "bikini body" to promote certain beauty standards and sell products. Those products are somehow supposed to make that certain body type appear attainable to consumers.
The female strand body is slim, toned and tanned with perky breasts and a curvy, firm butt. The male sand body equivalent is slender, tan and muscular.
The view that people have to pursue and attain a particular body to see and appreciate the sand is complete bullshit.
Strand body weight decrease advertisement attempting to profit from body shaming
While the beach body is about looking attractive in a swimsuit, the media and marketing are just as good at telling people what they should look like to be nude in public. Whether it's suggested nudity or full frontal, it's generally a female model with the perfect body" and perfect skin trying to sell us something or get the male gaze.
Sexualized nudity is used to sell. But in marketing there's only one version of sexy and once again, it's nobody's job or obligation to fit someone else's or society's notion of hot!
We all just need to love the fucking plage.
2. Nudists are big-boned and thereby boosting an unhealthy lifestyle.
In a recent blog post, I described how health worries about strangers are really only another form of fat-shaming.
A person's weight does not define health. Being fat will not unexpectedly require someone to divulge their health dilemmas to anyone. Most naturists recognize and respect others' right to privacy in regards to well-being in addition to the right to do what you want with your own body.
Being fat or unhealthy isn't a failure. Weight or size doesn't determine an individual's worth or whether they deserve to be accepted or loved as a human being.
Body Positivity is for ALL bodies!
At some stage, female attractiveness standards began dictating that girls must be hairless. While men's hair can be an indication of manliness or maleness, female body hair is considered disgusting, dirty and unfeminine.
In the past few years there's definitely been a growth in body-positive / feminist activism motivating women to grow their hair out (IF they need to) and to not feel embarrassed about it.
Body favorable drawing saying pubic hair is completely fine
Still, many people feel the need to inflict their own tastes or shame others for having hair.
This really is the FKK naturist philosophy on body hair:
Got a personal view on body hair? Great, keep it yourself and do what you need with your own body hair.
4. Nude people? Genitals? Ew, I don't need to see that.
Body shame continues to be a big issue when it comes to specific body parts and their natural functions. We still have those old puritan spiritual principles that held the human body to be obscene.
This problem can also be tied up with sexual shame. People are instructed to hide their sex organs. In schools, most are still taught to dismiss their sexual urges with abstinence only sex education. They truly are left to figure what real nude bodies appear to be. Or they get an entirely unrealistic thought from Internet porn.
And so, http://nudist-video.com .
There's a simple alternative for http://nudismgirls.com who do not need to see: Only. Don't. Look.
5. Women's breasts are sexual, so women should not be walking around topless.
Women's breasts aren't sex organs. Their primary function is always to feed infants.
Do some people derive sexual pleasure from their breasts? Totally.
Women's breasts are constantly sexualized and objectified for profit. Cops arrest and shame girls for attempting to enjoy a park while topfree the same way guys do. Folks sexualize and shame the bodies of little girls by making them cover up from a young age.
Breastfeeding and Sexualized Breasts in Advertisements
The actual reason girls can't walk around topfree like men, in most places, is pure sexism.
The Free the Nipple movement has drawn a enormous amount of attention for this equality problem. Nonetheless the law still lags behind, and approaches still need to change.
Here's an insightful quotation from Laura Dodsworth, author of Bare Reality, about the female body getting censored and shamed: It's not what we should reveal of our bodies, but who gets to determine what may be shown, in what way and where, that's finally revealing of women's location on the planet.
So that is my short list! Please share in the opinions.
Young Naturists & Naturists America